8 shades of love

It is known that ancient Greeks had at least 6 words to describe different types of love. Among them the most used were eros, philia, ludus, agape, pragma and philautia. Based on these, with few additions, we can describe types of love associated with possessing certain element of information metablolism in the ego block. Let us describe 8 kinds of love associated with 8 socionic elements.

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Victoria (Se ego types)

Victory is the ultimate goal. The object of love is like a precious trophy, it has to be finally won. This type of love is characterised by possesive attitude and persistency. The feeling usually is intensified by difficulties that make winning harder such as partner's moderate resistance and doubts. Respects partners that are able to show some resistance, and slip out of control from time to time. This allows the subject to engage in the chase once again.
 

Eros (Si ego types)

Physical love that focuses on sensory pleasures. The feeling is intensified by positive aestetic attributes of the partner. Attention is focused on visual beauty, shapes, fragerence but also pleasant touch between various parts of the body. Focuses on the body. May become addicted to the physical presence of the partner. Likes closeness, knows how to caress and provide gentle sensual relaxation.

Philia (Ne ego types)

This type of love may be described as "friendship which brings pleasure". Partner treats the other one as very close friend. Partners usually like to play together, share a hobby, have similar interests and views or generally enjoy each other's characters. Physical aspect is strongly subdued and less important then understanding of each others ideas and giving freedom.

Agape (Ni ego types)

Idealistic love that is highly disconnected from material world. Lives in the world of thought and inner concepts. The disconnection from material world triggers high spirituality.  Agape requires one to be forgiving, patient, understanding, loyal, and willing to make sacrifices for his/her partner. Agapic love believes itself to be unconditional, though lovers taking an agapic stance to relationships risk suffering from inattention to their own needs.

Pragma (Te ego types)

"I love that we are useful together." Pragmatic lovers have a notion of being of service which they perceive to be rational and realistic. "I show my love by being useful". While they may be sincere about being useful themselves it also translates to also having expectations in a partner and of the relationship. Appreciates partners with compatible views and emotional stability. These traits are advantageous from practical point of view and, for example, can make reaching common or individual goals of the partners easier.

Analita (Ti ego types)

Analytic lovers are typically reserved and tend to analyse the object of love from a distance. They try to understand how another person "works" - that is, try to analyse her behavior and find logical connections between various actions and recactions. The goal is to "have the partner figured out" or "solved" - like a mathematical problem. "I know how you work" - the analyst can say, if he have built a logical model of you. But he becomes more drawn in if you do things that contradict his analysis. Then, he wonders and makes some corrections to his "structural model" of yourself. This can go forever. The ideal partner is someone whos actions and views are dynamic, yet structured. This triggers curiosity in the analytic lover and gives him chance to constantly update his very detailed "structural model" of the partner. An intersting parner, which traits and behaviors are not to be easily classified, engages and sustains the attention of the analytic lover, but, at the same time he has to fit into the whole system, that is, to the personal structural model of the world of the analyst.

Mania (Fe ego types) 

"My love is as a fever, longing still
For that which longer nurseth the disease,
Feeding on that which doth preserve the ill,
The uncertain sickly appetite to please."

Shakesperean love, full of intense, dynamic feelings towards the partner. Manic lovers often hold their partners in very high esteem relative to themselves and place much importance on their relationship. This kind of love is characterized by dynamics - the emotions and moods are in constant flux. The partner usually has great influence on the mood of manic lover. In excess, mania becomes obsession or codependency and could come about as being very possessive and jealous.

Storge (Fi ego types) 

Like mania, this is emotional type of love, but it is all about stability. The attention is focused on static aspects. It values loyalties, responsibilities, duties and entitlements which promote long term stablity. Storge is often defined as familial love. There is a love between siblings, spouses, cousins, parents and children, but also between a married couple, who promise to extend, build their relationship and form a new stable bond of kinship. Just like family members, friends connected by this type of bond hold each other in good esteem to the outside world.

Sources: wikipedia